When a Father Loves a Daughter

11 Apr

Well, hello there! How would you like to hear a heartwarming story this Friday? It’s about a father and daughter, separated for many years, who find each other again to reconnect on a fundamental level only to be cruelly separated by the cold, harsh hands of the Law.

Meet John Earnest Deaves of Australia. 30 years ago, he separated from his wife and left behind an infant daughter, Jennifer Anne. Then, circumstances intervened, the way they do for some fathers, and he didn’t see his daughter for a long, long time until she was all grown up and had an ex and two children of her own. So John did what any man desirous of reconnecting with his grown up daughter in an “intellectual” relationship would do – he got into bed with her.

No, not to keep the bogeyman away, silly. To have sex. Lots of it. And procreate. As in “have children”.

That’s right. The picture below is that of Deaves, 61, and Deaves, 39, and their daughter / granddaughter Celeste Deaves, nine months. Celeste’s older sibling, born in 2001, sent regrets at being unable to attend the photo session due to death by congenital heart disease.

Now you might be wondering how the world came to hear about this, um, couple. Let me tell you: last month an Australian court forbid the two from having sex with each other. Apparently courts can do that when the people having sex are directly related to each other. So the Deaves, feeling the time had come for them to display some more of their stellar decision making skills on a larger scale, decided – wait for it – to go on national television with their sad story of star crossed love.

Here’re a few things they had to say:

About why they jumped into bed with each other, two weeks after they met as adults:

Ms Deaves told 60 Minutes she began to see John as a man first and a father second. “I was looking at him, sort of going, oh, he’s not too bad. Like you might look at a man across the bar at a nightclub,” she said.


Mr Deaves admitted that he “initially” thought having sex with his daughter was wrong. “Emotions take over, as people no doubt realise. There are times during your life where emotions do rule the heart, it rules the head,” he said. “I knew it was illegal. Of course, I knew it was illegal but you know, so what.”

About their sex life:

Mrs Deaves said the physical relationship with her father was like “a sexual relationship with any other man”.

For Mr Deaves the sexual relationship was “absolutely fantastic”.

About their TV appearance:

“John and I are in this relationship as consenting adults,” Mrs Deaves told the Nine Network’s 60 Minutes tonight. “We are just asking for a little bit of respect and understanding.”

Yup, turning a nine month old into the poster child for incest is absolutely the best way to get some respect and understanding.

Finally, the judge who told them this was not possible had this to say:

“The offence of incest exists not merely to protect children from sexual abuse,” Judge Millsteed said. “In my view, other relevant factors include the need to prevent the high risk of congenital defects in children born of incestuous relationships and to prevent children suffering psychological harm and social stigmatisation.”

Word. Two more words for all those looking to keep it all in the family: Birth + Control. Also? Don’t go on TV. Because? Not a good idea.

Enjoy your weekend. And the shower. You probably needed it anyway.


Posted by on April 11, 2008 in Life, News, Newsmakers


15 responses to “When a Father Loves a Daughter

  1. harini calamur

    April 11, 2008 at 4:08 pm

    it has been carried by the MSM here … and to be honest i got seriously, seriously grossed out….

  2. terri

    April 11, 2008 at 8:50 pm

    I haven’t watched this on the news, but based solely on what I read here, I see a 39-year-old woman being attracted to an older guy who’s her father in name only. I would’ve had a HUGE problem if the girl in question was a teenager.
    While I probably wouldn’t be in a hurry to make friends with this couple if they lived next door, I think it’s their business, and the courts and neighbors should stay out of it.

  3. M

    April 11, 2008 at 9:57 pm

    Amrita – OUCH! This story is so wrong in so many ways….was grossed out completely…


  4. rads

    April 11, 2008 at 11:42 pm

    Huge factor and all that, but look at it this way – they 2 did not know each other while she was growing up. He didnt exactly read bed tales to her or take her for walks or teach her to read the bike. He didn’t really be her “father” in the way this would have been even more yucky and gross.

    Not that I am taking sides, but you do see my point right?

  5. SAWJ

    April 12, 2008 at 6:03 am

    What has the world come to? Such immorality. And to see that people are trying to justify it is even worse.

    Whether he raised her or not, whether he stayed with her or not, he’s still her biological father! Staying with someone does not make one that person’s father/relative. There are thousands of people out there, he had to sleep with his own daughter?

  6. desigirl

    April 12, 2008 at 6:15 am

    Aww Ams! As if I needed help in tossing my breakfast! UGH! ICK!

  7. Rada

    April 12, 2008 at 12:04 pm

    Sad! Very disturbing!

    I had recently added you in my blogroll but am now having second thoughts!

    Just kidding! 🙂

  8. Amey

    April 12, 2008 at 1:28 pm

    Ewwww… and EWWWW again…

  9. Amey

    April 12, 2008 at 1:29 pm

    Just because you can’t post the pus-sy video from John Adams doesn’t mean you have to thrust something like this on us.

  10. Cinderella

    April 12, 2008 at 5:01 pm

    ewwwww…..that is soo disgusting!!!

    one of the most dark things i’ve ever read!!

  11. dipali

    April 12, 2008 at 11:59 pm

    If they hadn’t known that they were father and daughter, one would accept that this relationship happened unawares, though once having got to know, how could they continue?
    Knowingly makes it seem so gross, somehow.
    Incest is one of the strongest taboos in most human societies.

  12. sidekick

    April 13, 2008 at 10:37 am

    ew ew ew! ok, this is one post i wish i hadn’t read – just awful. the poor child/grandchild is going to be one confused kid!

  13. Amrita

    April 14, 2008 at 1:19 pm

    Hee hee hee @ all of you! I love it when I can gross you out.

    Sawj – I dont think anyone is defending incest, but there IS a difference between a father and daughter getting it on when the kid is a child and when they’re both grown up.

    Rads and Terri – I see what you mean and if they hadn’t dragged that poor little baby into the whole mess I think I would still have been grossed out but I’d have left them to it. (oh, ew) but the thought of them giving birth to a bunch of kids is just GROSS and a horrible thing to do to them.
    And Rads, I’d bet she has a lot of abandonment issues.

  14. Silvara

    April 15, 2008 at 2:53 am

    Oh god…they are so not over it here even now…what I don’t understand was that they decided to go on 60 minutes to tell everyone to leave them alone. Um…I think that worked *sarcasm dripping here*

    I’m sure there are all sorts of issues to why they did it…but still…it’s not right.

    I agree – that kid is going to have one fucked up life.

  15. Amrita

    April 16, 2008 at 2:55 pm

    that’s the part that I can’t understand either – did they think they were going to tap deep into some libertarian well of understanding? coz thats so not gonna happen!

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